Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Frolicon 2017

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Frolicon is our favorite con every year, and this was one of the best Frolicons I’ve had in years!


I drove down w/ my omega.  My lovely Owner, her boyfriend, my Alpha, his boyfriend, and his Sir were all already on site.  (Did you get all that?)  Actually, when I walked into our room, Alpha was naked and in hypnotic bondage.  His Sir is a professional erotic hypnotist.  Personally, I have always had a HUGE fantasy-fetish for mindcontrol/hypno/brainwashing, so watching him control Alpha through hypnotic triggers all weekend was incredibly, fucking hot!  Wolfhound was so envious!  Also fucking hot:  my Alpha didn’t waste any time before he had me on the floor worshiping his feet w/ my tongue and mouth.  I was in beta-puppy heaven.

No special costumes Thursday night: just leather pack vests and jeans.  We went out to dinner:  My family, three of our friends, another pack-mate of ours, and two friends he brought… and Nitro.  Unfortunately, it was karaoke night at the restaurant we choose, so we had to endure some painful sounds.  Ug.

Back at the con, we went to some show… I can’t even remember what the hell it was b/c I was back on the floor worshiping my Alpha’s feet the whole time – w/ him occasionally slapping my face to keep me in submissive headspace.  He’s been training me to fetishize his feet for about a year now, and the training is really starting to take root: I see/smell his naked feet and I start drooling and getting hard.  I ended up back in our room for some sexy fun w/ Alpha, his boyfriend, and his Sir.  Alpha did the most amazing job of staging a different kind of sexy-fun scene each night!  This night he reduced me to a brainless sex-animal.  He started by getting me sucking his alpha-cock.  I should pause to say: I’m locked in chastity and at this point it had been 144 days since Alpha had let me out to cum.  Yes… 144 days.  So obviously I was already a very horny wolfhound.  So, I’m sucking his alpha-cock and he spits on my face.  I’m sucking cock and feeling this huge, warm gob of spit slowly sliding down my face and eventually reaching my mouth…  fucking heaven!  That sent me into such a sexed-up subby headspace!  For the next several minutes there, I couldn’t think of anything but to obey and suck cock at Alpha’s command!  Seriously, if 10 strangers walked into the room and Alpha said, “Suck each dick,” it wouldn’t have occurred to me to question or hesitate.  My Alpha put me to work rotating among sucking him, his Sir, and his boyfriend, until they all got off (and I was left horny and frustrated, of course – locked in chastity like good betas are supposed to be).  That will probably go down as a lifetime memory of one of the hottest sex scenes I’ve ever had!  And it was only Night One…


I pulled on one of my latex body suits and my rubber puppy mask, inserted my tail, and taught my Puppy Play 101 class w/ my Alpha and omega playing on the floor in pup mode.  Alpha managed not to hurt himself or knock anyone out of their chair this year.  Actually the class went very well.  We then did family photos in the dungeon sans Owner b/c she had something else she had to go take care of.

We checked out the venders’ room before it was time to teach Puppy 201.  Both classes were well attended and, in fact, this was the best 201 class we’ve ever done.  Lots of great audience participation!  We received a lot of complements.  Off-duty the rest of the night, I put on my black Spider-man symbiote costume, and we tried to find some room parties but failed.  So we mostly hung out downstairs.  Where were all the room parties this year?????

Eventually, we ended up back in the room for Night Two of sexy-fun.  This time, Alpha had gotten me to beg for him to have sex his Sir and not me.  (Alpha can pretty much get me sexed-up enough to want whatever he tells me I want, and at this time it was a matter of convencing me how much better it would be watching him fuck another man.)  So after begging, Alpha did have sex w/ his Sir and had two orgasms, while I, his beta, sat on the floor and watched, throbbing helplessly in my cock-cage.  Alpha then allowed me to sleep on the floor beside his bed, a frustrated but helpless little cuckhound.  *wags*


We had to get an early start today b/c we co-sponsored the Petting Zoo at 10am.  There was a great turn-out!  Lots of pups, kittens, two or three lizards, a donkey, a horse-girl, and a hucow.  Alpha was the best Hnadler for us all.  After that fun, I went to go spend time w/ my lovely Owner.  We wandered the venders’ room… until it was time for her Endorphin Soup ritual.  Alpha joined us, along w/ his boyfriend, and my Owner’s boyfriend.  I can’t really explain much about the ritual, except to say it was very powerful and everyone involved was touched by it.  I was incredibly proud of my Owner!  She amazes me.

Alpha and I had to run directly from the ritual to our puppy mosh.  Fortunately, my omega and Alpha’s Sir got everything set-up and started.  The mosh was fun and, once again, we had a good turn-out.

 Now we were, finally, completely “off-duty” for the rest of the con.  I spent some quiet time w/ Ma’am while Alpha had some quiet time w/ his Sir… and then I went and relaxed in the hotel’s hot tub w/ my little omega.  (My life does not suck.)  We got out of the spa, met-up w/ Alpha and his Sir and, after dinner, went down to the hypnotist show.  The show was okay if a little schlocky – basically the same show I’ve seen many times at Ren Fair.  The kinky stuff Alpha was programmed to do by his Sir was more interesting.  From there it was back to our room for more sexy-fun time.  Alpha chained me to the bed, removed my cock cage and beat me, bit me, and edged me until I, finally, after 146 days, came HARD!

Eventually I came back to earth.  Locked back in chastity, I put on my rubber shorts and harness, we put the omega pup in a straight jacket, and we went out to find room parties.  We found two.  Drank, talked, reveled…  Once, I let the omega wander off in his straightjacket – Alpha fussed at me. We found him.  At some point we ended up back in our hotel room, and once again Alpha allowed his beta to sleep on the floor at his bedside.  *wags*

This little summery of events just doesn’t do justice to the fun we had (and several important thing I’m omitting b/c they are personal).  My Owner was just awe-inspiring in her strength and always looked beautiful.  Hypno-controlled Alpha was oh-my-gods sexy.  Omega was not only all cute and adorable, but indispensably helpful in his service to me and Alpha.  Very good boy!  And I love Ma’am’s boyfriend, Alpha’s boyfriend… and meeting Alpha’s new Sir was delightful.  Wonderful, wonderful time with my family!


But I’m not done!  I have a post-credits sequence.   Few days after con, Alpha joined me for a date-night in Chattanooga, TN.  I needed some quieter, one-on-one time w/ my Sir, and he was kind enough to oblige me.  We walked together and talked for a couple of hours, had dinner, walked a little more (he even let me hold hands some b/c he’s such a romantic - Not)…  Eventually we ended up in bed for a post-Frolicon bonus sexy-fun scene!  More humiliation… Alpha broke me down hard and fast that night before aggressively, painfully milking me.  This orgasm was even better than Saturday night’s.  He let me sleep w/o my cock-cage, and even the next morning I woke-up rock hard and in a floaty, subby headspace…

Summery:  great sex, erotic hypnosis, transformative ritual, brave and lovely Owner, wonderful chosen family, so much love, successful classes and moshes… and more great sex!  Woof!  Wolfhound is happy.

Saturday, January 14, 2017

2016 Year in Review, Part Two

Twenty more questions about my year...

21. How did you spend Christmas?
We spent Christmas home at the Treehouse this year; Ma’am was road-weary and wanted to stay home.  We had a lot of great friends and chosen family come visit us between Christmas and New Years including Poet, Cuddles, Hunter, Daniel, Randolph, and more!

22. Did you fall in love?
I still love my beautiful Owner and my wonderful pack-mates.

23. Have any one-night stands?
Sex was very good – again – this year!  Starting with a really hot hook-up at MAL and continuing on though some very sexy scenes with my Alpha, and along the way there was sex with a rubber boy in a vac bed.

24. What was your favorite TV program?
Jessica Jones and Stranger Things were really impressive and I finally got to see Avatar … but I think I might have to go w/ Outlander as number one b/c – Scotland!

25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
One jackass doctor; one lying sociopath in Tennessee; the lazy, narcissistic, pathologically lying, racist, man-baby who is our President-elect – and his cabinet of horrors!  (Too much hate in 2016!)

26. What was the best book you read?
Read lots of Scotland stuff: Scottish history, travel, Rob Roy, Robert the Bruce… Outside of that, I gobbled up both of Glen Wheldon’s books on Superman and Batman.

27. What was your favorite new music of 2016?
Leonard Cohen and David Bowie’s final albums were both really good.  We’ve also listened to a lot of electro-swing this year.

28. Best new podcast?
I enjoyed binge listening to Now Playing while painting the kitchen ceiling.  Also shout outs for Code Switch and StoryWonk’s Story and Star Wars.

29.  What did you want and get?
A second latex bodysuit…  and I wanted to get my Alpha into a sexy, latex bodysuit, and I got that, too.  (And even the omega got a spandex bodysuit.  Yay!)

30. What did you want and not get?
A president-elect who isn’t a narcissistic, misogynist, islamophobic, racist man-baby

31. What was your favorite film of this year?
What a good film year!  Jungle Book, Captain America Civil War, and Arrival were all A+ films!  But my very favorite is Kubo and the Two Strings.

32. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
Forty-one.  Spent the weekend in Chattanooga with Hunter, John, and Daniel, and Daniel’s son had a psychotic break and cussed out the people living in the ceiling.

33. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Less psychotic drug users in Chattanooga!  Seriously.

34. How would you describe your personal fashion concept this year?
I got a really nice, second-hand leather vest in Glasgow, Scotland.

35. What kept you sane?
Scotland!  And some other good times spent w/ friends and loved ones.

36. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
It could be Tom Holland’s Spider-man, but he might be a touch too young for me. So, the winner is Catriana Balfe’s Clare Randall – two years in a row for a strong, smart feminist protagonist.  (But Tom Holland does look very nice in his Spidy underoos.)

37. What political issue stirred you the most?                           
Oh, god – oh, god – we’re all going to die.

38. Who did you miss?
Timm.  Wish he could have joined us in Scotland.

39. Who was the best new person you got to know?
I don’t know if I got to know any new people this year…?  Except online.

40. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2016:
Fuck 2016.

Saturday, December 31, 2016

2016 Year in Review, Part One

20 Questions About My Year

1. What did you do this year that you'd never done before?
Visited Scotland, got a doctor fired from our local hospital, marched with Cuddles in NC Pride, and pissed off my friend, Daniel.

2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
“Do a new comic book review each week [and] write a couple of adventures for a new game system my friend John is developing.”  Nope.
Resolution for 2017:  I’d love to try a do-over on those resolutions… But really, I want to try this project whereby, in 2016, I revisit some of my favorite/most influential books and documentaries more or less in order of how I encountered them from roughly 1993 to 2003.  So I’m going to re-read Dune, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, Jung’s Man and His Symbols, etc., and re-watch The Power of Myth and the Day the Universe Changed…etc.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

4. Did anyone close to you die?
Sir Alan.  We also lost a lot of celebrities this year, from Alan Rickman to Leonard Cohen.

5. Did anyone close to you get married?

6. What places did you visit?
Scotland!  And a fun weekend in DC with Hunter and Loki.

7. What would you like to have next year that you lacked this year?
Well, I didn’t lack a motorcycle this year, but I would love to have a newer one next year.

8. What day from this year will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
All seven days in Scotland (good), and the night they kicked us out of the ER then rushed Kitten into emergency surgery the next morning (bad).

9. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I was a helpful puppy for my Owner and for Poet.  I got the asshole doctor who almost killed Kitten fired from that hospital.  I’ve helped Poet clean and fix up his house to sell.  I tried to be a good tour guide puppy in Scotland.  Helpful puppy was helpful.

10. What was your biggest failure?
Maybe not as helpful to one of my best friends whom I inadvertently pissed off and then there was an unfortunate period of months where he wasn’t really speaking to me.  That was sad

11. Did you suffer illness or injury?
I think I did okay – everyone else was in and out of the hospital!

12. What was the best thing you bought?
Ma’am’s awesome sweater-coat, “Shadow Roses.”

13. Whose behavior merited a celebration?
I’m very proud of my lovely Owner. She began this year after a brush w/ death feeling very afraid and unsure of herself… by the end of the year I had seen her really conquer her fear: refusing to hide in the closet, bite her tongue or “roll over and take it.”

14. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
Max’s (now ex-)boyfriend who turned out to be a nasty piece of human garbage. …Oh, wait, that’s the same thing I wrote last year.  How about a certain asshole ER doctor who sent my Owner home to die?  Those are two men I wouldn’t mind seeing bad shit happen to.

15. Where did most of your money go?

16. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Scotland!  Also, we got to see Labyrinth on the big screen, and that was really cool; and I’m also going to add teaching pup classes and doing the mosh and Puppy Olympics at Frolicon.  And I'll add that the CAPEX Pig Pick'n was extra-cool this year: we had our own private island! 

17. What song will always remind you of this year?
I really liked the song “Lost Boy” by Ruth B, “Let’s Hear it for the Dogs” by the Proclaimers, “You Want it Darker” by Leonard Cohen, “Dairy Queen” by Power Bottom, and “Speak When You’re Spoken to” by Spook School.  I think the one that will remind me most of this year will be “You Want it Darker” because I feel like 2016 has been taunting us all with that question since January.

18. Compared to this time last year, you are:
More afraid for the world… and also more of a whisky drinker.

19. What do you wish you'd done more of?
More time in Scotland.  If we had one more day I would have loved to see Loch Lomund and Castle Dumbarton.

20. What do you wish you'd done less of?

Trying to keep the lives of my loved ones from either ending or just going off the rails.

Saturday, December 10, 2016

Reality has a Liberal Bias

 This is the third post in, loosely, a series, as I try to process the election on Donald Trump and what I consider to be he most dangerous and fragile state America has been in in my lifetime.  I wrote first about the false equivalence of making Trump the conservative equivalent of Obama/Clinton – i.e. normalizing Trump.  In my second post, I expressed the irritation I have with the Right over its insistence on presenting opinions or faith (or outright falsehoods) as if they are the same as actual, provable facts.  (And I'm not anti-religious and don't de-value faith; but it's a choice and a personal belief and not the same as shared, objective reality.)

Earlier in the year I saw Newt Gangrich being interviewed and he kept talking about rising violent crime, and the reporter challenged him by pointing out that violent crime rates across the country have actually dropped during the Obama administration, and Newt countered with, “But people feel less safe.”  And he stuck by that, repeating it more than once in the interview.  Answering actual facts only with subjective feelings, but asserted as if they were of equal importance.

Much more recently, President-elect Trump claimed (with no evidence at all – i.e. incorrectly!) that there were millions of cases of voter fraud.  (There were 4 confirmed cases.)  Mike Pence went on TV and defended Trump’s baseless claim (i.e. lie!) by saying, “He’s entitled to his opinion.”  He said that three times in the interview, and I just wanted the reporter to scream at him, “OPINIONS ARE NOT FACTS!”  An opinion is like, “Mushrooms are gross,” not, “Millions of people committed voter fraud.”  But the mainstream media is so obsessed with “neutrality” (over factual accuracy) that they have created these nightmares of false equivalences where opinions, tastes, internet conspiracy theories (fucking Pizzagate!!), and baseless claims are put on the same level as actual, provable facts.  So still today 60% of Trump voters believe Obama is a Muslim even though there is literally no evidence supporting this ridiculous claim… at the same time, more than that number denies man-made climate change even though there is a fucking mountain of evidence.

You probably heard about the pro-Trump, white nationalists rally in DC at which the audience railed against the “Lügenpresse.”  That’s an old Nazi term meaning, “Lying press.”  The Nazis were (also) always railing against the “lying press” b/c fascism can’t tolerate reality.  Their whole system is built upon a heap of lies, distortions and nutty conspiracy theories, so part of the trick of fascism is to attack the press as liars and facts as “your opinion.”  This is why one of my favorite sayings of late has been, “Reality has a liberal bias.”

TYT Network posted an extended interview with a white supremacist organizer.  He was very articulate and had clearly thought long and hard about his answers… but at some point, of course, his views all break down for obvious reasons.  Watching it, the third false equivalence of the Trump-right became obvious: white Christians (mostly men) feeling victimized and oppressed by liberal “political correctness” – acting like us asking them not to be a bigot is the same as them taking away the rights of LGBTQs, blacks, Muslims, and other minorities.

Newsflash:  Canceling Duck Dynasty because the stars are homophobic bigots is not equivalent to denying same-sex couples the right to marriage.  Nobody has a special right to star in a TV show, but all consenting adults do have the right to get married… or rent an apartment, or be served in a restaurant, or use a public bathroom.  LGBTQ people aren’t asking for special, extra rights; we are only asking to have the same rights straight people have.

I think I first really noticed this trend with Kim Davis, that obnoxious bitch who, as a Court Clerk, refused to sign off on same-sex marriages because (she claimed) it was against her religion.  You had all these asshole Christens (and, no, I don’t think all Christians are assholes) rally around her claming that us asking the not to impose on our rights and pleas treat us as equal was somehow us oppressing them and us discriminating against them… you know, by removing their power to discriminate against others.  This was so insane – and yet this warped resentment, this sense that the white, Christian, patriarchal majority is somehow being oppressed and having their rights trampled on simply by us asking them not to trample on others and treat others as equals, this resentment became, it seems to me, the energy driving the engine of the Trump machine.
In “What Was the Nerd? The myth of the bullied white outcast loner is helping fuel a fascist resurgence,” Willie Osterweil lays out this argument:  “Today’s American fascist youth is neither the strapping Aryan jock-patriot nor the skinheaded, jackbooted punk: The fascist millennial is a pasty nerd watching shitty meme videos on YouTube, listening to EDM, and harassing black women on Twitter. Self-styled “nerds” are the core youth vanguard of crypto-populist fascist movements… The myth of nerd oppression let every slightly socially awkward white boy who likes sci-fi lay his ressentiment at the feet of the nearest women and people of color… The Gamergate movement… engaged in widespread coordinated harassment of women and queer people in the gaming world in a direct attempt to purge non-white-male and non-right-wing voices, all the while claiming they were the actual victims...”

So this is the third big false equivalence coming from the Trump-right.  You have these groups (whites, men, Christians) who have been on top for a long time and now they are pissed off at being asked to let others (blacks, Muslims, LGBTQ, Latino, women) be on equal footing with them… and they twist it around so that THEY feel victimized.  And I think this lies at the hart of the Right’s hatred for “political correctness” – which to them is some kind of oppressive infringement on their rights, and to us simply means, “Hey, don’t be a dick to people, okay?”  Someone points out to you that it’s not cool to make fun of disabled people or use the n-word, and you respond like you are the one being victimized!?

These two things are not equivalent!  If someone with more power and more privilege punches down on you or oppresses you or denies you the same rights and freedoms they enjoy then you are being victimized.  If someone with less power, privilege and clout than you demands that you stop victimizing them, that does not make you a victim!  You do not get to feel righteous anger at not being able to punch down on people; people getting punched down upon do get to feel righteous anger at you for bullying and oppressing them.  Because the oppression you (white, Christian, straight man) feel is in your head (“War on Christmas!?”  Seriously?)  While the oppression and bullying and double-standard experienced by African-Americans, Latinos, Muslims, LGBTQ people, and even the female half of the population) exists in actual reality.

Wednesday, November 23, 2016

Don't Bring Feelings to a Fact Fight

I wrote in my last post about my intolerance for Trump supporters, concluding that valuing tolerance does not mean tolerating EVERYTHING and that some things remain intolerable.  I still have more to say and think through as I continue to process what I think and how I feel.  I’m going to do these in a series of posts and try to impose some logic and order to it.

Here, I want to pick up the thread that tolerance is not the same as moral relativism and my impatience with Trump supporters drawing this objectively absurd and false equivalence between Trump, Pence and Bannon on the one side and Obama and the Clintons on the other.  (For more on that, I highly recommend this: )  

The moral relativists want to say that all views no matter how extreme and destructive are the same, so the things Trump (“waterboarding and worse”), Pence (advocating for conversion “therapy” to be used on gay kids), Bannon (didn’t want his kids going to private school b/c there were “too many Jews”), Sessions (said white lawyers who defend black clients are “race traitors”), and Flynn (said Islam is a “cancer”) say and advocate is all somehow no worse than advocating for clean energy, a path to citizenship, and universal healthcare.  

The same false equivalency often extends to the kind of arguments these people make.  You get reasoned, fact-based arguments from one side and the other offers false info, goofy internet conspiracy theories, feelings, and religious beliefs.  You've seen it on TV: You have a trained historian, an expert on the Holocaust who has done years of research and written books on the subject... and he's sitting there on TV w/ a Holocaust denier who's practically wearing a tinfoil hat and he wants to be taken just as seriously.

I accept there is a realm for legitimate political differences – stemming from policy differences, questions about the best way to achieve goals, trying to find the correct analysis of facts… but also basic political philosophies about rights, the duties of citizens and the duties of government, etc.

However, taking all of that into account, I can still be a “moral realist,” which means there are actual, objectively right and wrong (or “better and worse”) answers to moral questions – testable and provable based on data-driven, real world evidence!

Let me use homosexuality as an example.  We can prove w/ actual, fact-based evidence that pedophilia is bad: it traumatizes and harms its victims.  But objections to homosexuality are always reducible to misinformation (“Gays are all pedophiles”), or non-provable opinions based in either personal taste (“That’s gross”) or religion (“That’s a sin”), neither of which counts as fact-based evidence.  This is why marriage equality won in the Supreme Court: because they couldn’t offer any evidence based in the real, shared, observable world as to any harm it would cause.

After Texas de-funded Planed Parenthood, the deaths of low-income women from complications in childbirth DOUBLED!  Those are actual, real deaths the Republican Party caused – not kooky hysteria over make-believe Obamacare “death panels.”  That is fact based evidence.

Sam Harris wrote: “Meaning, values, morality, and the good life must relate to facts about the well-being of conscious creatures – and, in our case, must lawfully depend upon events in the world and upon states of the human brain.” (The Moral Landscape, 2010)

Trans rights to access public bathrooms?  Fact:  There is no case anywhere in U.S. history of a trans person molesting anyone in a public restroom or someone posing as a trans person to molest someone in a public restroom even though some large cities and some whole states have had trans bathroom rights in the laws since the ‘90s.  Feeling: “But allowing trans-women to go into the ladies room makes me feel scared or uncomfortable.”  Those two things are not equivalent!  You morally can’t inhibit people’s rights and impose an undue burden upon them just because you might FEEL uncomfortable – not when those feelings aren’t based in any real world evidence… and are actually contradicted by the evidence.  (“I don’t want to share bathrooms and water fountains w/ black people because – ew, gross!”)

Sex education?  Every study has shown that districts with abstinence only sex “education” have higher rates of teen pregnancy than districts w/ comprehensive, science-based sex ed.  How you feel about that or your religious beliefs (or what the Pope says God says) doesn’t count the same as actual, objective evidence.  You’re bringing subjective feeling and opinion to a fact fight.

(Incidentally, as a moral realist, I don’t claim there is only one right answer to a particular moral problem; only that, based in objective evidence, some answers are provably better than others.  In some cases there may be many answers that are good… but almost always there will be some answers that can be clearly shown to be wrong.)

Why am I making a big deal of this?  Because just like the normalization of Donald Trump (trying to make him, Pence, and Bannan look like the conservative equivalents of Obama and Clinton) is a false equivalence, so too are many of the arguments conservatives bring to the table where they try to argue from opinion or feeling.  I am not anti-religion, but what your Bible says (for example) isn’t equivalent to actual real world data about health, happiness and well being.  All that view is, is an implicit moral relativism – b/c if your subjective beliefs and feelings count as much as actual facts… well, then so does everyone’s, and fuck all chance of finding an answer!

In my next post, I plan to address a third false equivalence I’m sick of: straight, white Christians men feeling victimized and oppressed by liberal "political correctness" – acting like us asking them not to be a bigot is the same as them stepping on the rights of women, LGBTQ people, blacks, Muslims and other minorities.

Friday, November 11, 2016

I won’t be Neville Chamberlain.

I’ve written so many pages trying to analyze and process what has happened to our country/world… too many to post.  I think what is most immediately on my mind however, is a question I’ve been wrestling with for a year: How do I relate to my friends and family who support Trump-Pence and their platform?  Ranging from casual friends to my own brother to my wife’s parents…

According to a survey I saw (I think on Vox), in 1964, around 30% of Republicans and Democrats thought the other party was actually a danger to the US.  In 2010, it had risen up to almost 80% of both parties.  That is BAD for democracy.  It’s okay for the parties to oppose and work against one-another.  But when you hate and fear one-another, that can’t happen in a healthy democracy.  We, on the left, should not hate and fear the GOP, and visa-versa.

Seth Myers talked about how, after the election, he felt sadness, anger, and fear, but then he realized that these were the same emotions a lot of Trump supporters felt about Obama and Hillary and, “it would be wrong of me to think that my emotions are somehow more authentic than their emotions.”  I thought about that…

But he’s wrong.

Outrage at the election of Obama is not morally equivalent to outrage at the election of Trump.  Because we of one party should not view the opposition as a serious danger to the country… unless it actually is.  And, therein, lies the rub.

Recently, my Alpha posted this:  “Fuck all this "I don't unfriend people over political views" shit. If your political views include being pro genocide, anti equal rights…, hating gays, hating women, hating immigrants (and are ignorant enough to think a great wall is coming free of charge from Mexico), or thinking "I'm in favor of conservative economic policies, so I'm voting for this asshole who isn't qualified to run a country" [Note: Trump will be the first US President who never served in either public office or the military.], seriously, fuck you. I really want you to tell me if you supported him so I can avoid you forever…  Like, Stein believes in magic crystals and Johnson is libertarian, but I don't mind people voting for them as they aren't terrible, terrible people.”

Likewise, I can have friends who supported Bush-Cheney or voted for Romney or McCain. I disagree with them – but those fall within the realm of normal political disagreements.  Trump is NOT a normal case!  Trump is a dangerous narcissist with obvious sociopahic tendencies (total lack of empathy) who has casually talked about murdering innocent people (killing the families of terrorists), bragged about committing sexual assault, said he will have people tortured (“waterboarding and worse”), and praised totalitarian dictators as examples of great leadership.  Trump is NOT the conservative equivalent to Obama or the Clintons (that would be more in line w/ Romney, McCain or George H.W. Bush).  No, Trump is such an extreme case that the Left equivalent of him would be like Mao or Stalin.

To those who say:  “To all posters... Please STOP trying to put this country in Civil War... Don't try to divide this nation more”…  You are basically Neville Chamberlain.  People who are posting junk like, “Apparently tolerance and compromise only applies to others,” are making a (deliberate?) false equivalence.  Asking for tolerance for the views of a typical, centrist left-moderate like Obama or Clinton (universal healthcare and family leave, for instance, are common, ordinary things throughout most of the civilized world) is not equivalent to asking to tolerate the views of a man who talked casually about murdering innocent people, said “laziness is a trait in blacks,” argued for greater nuclear proliferation, said Mexican-Americans are drug dealers and rapists, said he will order torture, ban all Muslims from entering the country, etc. Fighting for tolerance does not mean fighting to tolerate EVERYTHING. Tolerance is not total moral relativism. Some things remain intolerable.

I will not be tolerant of your support of Trump.  That has moved too far outside of the normal political disagreements that are actually (usually) healthy for democracy.  I won’t be tolerant of it any more than I would tolerate white supremacists, fascists, or ISIS.  There is a line beyond which you are no longer welcome at my table.

Monday, June 20, 2016

There's No Smiling in Old Guard!

For my friends who are interested in leather history and protocols, I recommend the latest episode of the NoSafeWord show.  Their topic is Old Guard vs. New Guard, and its discussed by two, young puppy-boys who have experience in both settings.  It's very good.  The only thing I dislike is the use of "Old Guard" - I'd rather say "Traditional" Leather, meaning that type of style that developed among guy men in late '60s and '70s, whereas "THE Old Guard" refers to specific (and mostly mythical) group of men from the '50s and '60s.  But, that aside, I think this is a great conversation about the traditional vs. modern leather scene.  The big difference being whether or not you're allowed to smile in photographs...

The conversation on Old vs. New leather starts about halfway through the episode , if you want to skip to it.